Because of how exciting this new adventure is your family and friends are all super excited. They are also wanting to fill you with as much knowledge as they can to help you since this is your first time. You will hear everything from horror stories, miracles, and easy pregnancies and births. As mean as this may sound IGNORE EVERYTHING YOU HEAR. Every single pregnancy is different, they are like finger prints, no two are identical and your body will respond different than theirs to pregnancy and mommy hood. While it feels good to have the support of your family and friends you are going to focus too much on praying you won't have the horror stories you hear come true and wonder why you aren't having the perfect pregnancy.
Like I said IGNORE those stories, they are sweet to hear the happy endings but you'll spend too much time focusing on it.
Another thing, you will be extremely surprised at just how much you get judged, it hurts and it is extremely annoying (thank you hormones) but just remember THIS IS YOUR CHILD not theirs. There was someone who constantly gave Jon and I the "why??" and "why are you doing that?" which also were given with dirty looks....I'll never really look at this person the same again because of how ridiculous, judgemental, and rude they were. Are we perfect? Not even close, but we know what we want for our child and if you don't like it....well, since I'm a lady (or try my hardest to be) all I am going to say is those people who have a permanent stick up their butt and are judging all your decisions. Feel bad for them, they are obviously jealous of your amazing situation and more than likely there are more feelings feeding the negativity than just you. But like I said, sadly I will never look at that person the same and I just can't act like I use to around them....maybe after my hormones calm down I will have a change of heart but as of right now, they are the last thing on my mind.
We are soooo incredibly lucky to have the families we have because nothing about our relationship has been traditional or "the way it's suppose to be." I grew up thinking my life would go a certain way and would fit into this certain mold but it never has and never will. Honestly, I think Jon knew we were each other's "It" way before I did and when we found out I was pregnant I was terrified and I know Jon was too but he was instantly excited and happy. I wanted to wait to tell our families, until I at least got in to see a doctor....he couldn't wait he was too excited. Since we aren't married, I felt guilty and like we had done something wrong because this isn't how it's suppose to go. Like I said, nothing about our relationship has been the way it's "suppose" to be so it really wasn't a huge shock. I just prayed our families wouldn't be mad.
The one thing you have to tell yourself, whether you are are married, not married, or doing this alone, no matter what your family and friends love you and they want the best for you. You're going to be judged at some point and upset people at others but remember this is YOUR baby and YOUR life. Keep that baby as your focus and remember that he/she loves you no matter what. Everything else will fall into place, I promise you.
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